I’ve been all kinds of sizes in my 24 years on this earth, from a size 8 to a size 18. Right now I’m at my heaviest and I’m going to be truthful, I’m also at my most self concious. Being concious about my body is nothing new to me at all, I’ve always been somewhat aware of my body type not being the same as my friends but it never really bothered me until I hit 20. I’ve avoided social situations and even skipped on job interviews because of my weight. I’ve tried all kinds of diets; the infamous “Beyonce diet” which consists of honey, cayenne pepper and god knows what else, to the 5:2 fad diet. In a world that’s so anti fat it’s not surprising that us fatties feel some kind of social pressure to lose the pounds, and 4 years ago April would have caved in to pressure and started losing weight in an unhealthy way. 24 year old April says fuck you to all these judgemental fuckwits that are overly obsessed with how women look. I’m still self concious , I’m only human! But I’m taking small steps towards having a more positive outlook on my body so I can be happier in myself.
1. Stop comparing yourself to other people. You’re not them, you’re you. Stop wishing you were someone else!
2. Focus on your positive attributes. What makes you different from other people? Look at yourself as a whole person, there’s a lot more to you than your physical appearance.
3. I don’t like my legs they’re chubby little sausages and even if I had all the confidence in the world I doubt I’d get them out, so don’t feel like you have to show off you’re whole body to radiate positivity. It’s all about you being comfortable in yourself. Everyone feels negative about themselves in life it’s completely normal you aren’t alone.
4. I personally think women are beautiful in general. So never describe yourself as average.
5. Don’t compare yourself to others because comparison is the thief of joy.
6. Modern culture perpetuates some really unobtainable standards of beauty don’t let it other people dictate the way you see beauty.
7. Your personality and actions say a lot more about you than your body. People won’t remember that you were a size whatever but they will remember that amazing compliment you gave them.
8. We as people need to stop with the judgemental body comments and start with the body positivity. The internet gives people a cloak to hide behind whilst they dish out all the body snark comments, it gives people the opportunity to encourage each other to say hateful things. We’re all guilty of commenting on people’s physical appearance, so let’s all take the step to be less judgemental.
9. Choose happiness! Your life should not be dictated by a number on a scale. You are so much more than that. You are beautiful today.
10. Stop worrying what everybody else thinks.
As cliché as it is nobody is perfect so why do you think you can be the exception? Chill out.